What will I wear to your funeral?
By Kellie Curtain
'Put your lipstick on, begin the day. It will start without you anyway.'
'What will I wear to your funeral?' 'How do I look after your orchid?'
Kellie wanted to ask her mother so many questions while she still could. When you don't go a day without speaking to someone you love, how do you say goodbye forever? It didn't bear thinking about.
When Pamela Curtain is diagnosed with cancer, her family plead with her to try everything that might give them more time. She reluctantly agrees, but on one condition. Life goes on because it has to and so does the weekly family dinner with wine and loud sibling banter.
With grace, guts and cups of tea the matriarch prepares herself and those she loves for the inevitable. Their conversations are honest, funny and at times confronting, where a shade of lipstick might be the only bright side.
This is a toast to love, friendship and the ordinary. There is no happy ending but the Curtain family discovers that there can be 'good' in goodbye. And it somehow leaves them feeling just a little victorious.
Now put on the kettle and open the wine.
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Ted Radio Hour - Moving Forward
Podcast Review: Rita Marigliani
The idea that you can ‘move on’ from loss and grief is one I always struggled with, which is why this podcast really resonated for me.
It shares the stories of people who have experienced a range of loss and who, instead of forgetting the past, have moved forward with it.
While these stories are not specifically about mother loss, the messages ring true. I found it validated how I feel about the memories of my mum and how I have incorporated them, and her loss, into my life.
This is a great one to share with well-meaning family and friends who don’t know what to say, or can’t understand how you are working through your grief.
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By Hope Edelman
Book Review: Danielle Snelling
This book is excellent at normalising what you are feeling, thinking and experiencing after the loss of a mother. Not only will it help you realise that your feelings are normal, but it will aid in helping you to understand why you have certain feelings and emotions.
It is for everyone, no matter the stage of life you were at when your mum passed away.
The book is filled with contributions from many motherless daughters of different ages and covers a huge array of topics and challenges.
It really is an essential read for anyone coping without the support of their mum.
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Struggling with Mother's Day?
By Dr Carrie Lethborg
Creating awareness is not just about educating others about motherless daughters and the challenges they face around Mother's Day in particular, but it is also an opportunity to take time to look inward and take care of our own feelings.
During MDA awareness week, Dr Carrie Lethborg an oncology social worker with more than 30 years experience and who last year became a motherless daughter herself, offers powerful insight into some of the complex feelings that can remain long after a mother is lost.
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