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'Memories of Mum' Journal - children age 4+ and teens

It is widely acknowledged that art and creative expression have therapeutic value to those who are grieving. It helps both adults and children alike, by providing an outlet and space to explore feelings and communicate in a unique and creative way.    

Memories of Mum is a journal aimed at supporting children aged 4+ and teens to make sense of their grief and loss of their mother while making a memoir of their mum in a way that they see fit.

We have trialled 50 copies as a pilot program and the response and feedback has been exceptionally positive.

Feedback from recipients have revealed that Memories of Mum journals have played a huge role in:

  • Enabling conversations to take place between children, siblings and main caregivers;
  • Helping children across Australia remember and honour their mum in their own unique way;
  • Provided a space for children to explore different topics and to help process their grief and loss;
  • Encouraged children to have healthy conversations about their mum and ensuring that they're heard. 

 

We rely on your help to support initiatives such as this one so that we can continue to provide this valuable resource to children without their mum, particularly as we head towards Mother's Day which can be a very difficult time. 

 

To enquire about obtaining a journal for a young person that you know who has lost their mother or to make a donation, please email is at info@motherlessdaughters.com.au with your contact details. 

Fact Sheets

Fact Sheet #1 - Supporting a Motherless Daughter

Many girls and women whose mother has died will have family, friends, partners and others who may want to be a source of support. We understand that this can be a tough time and that it is sometimes difficult to find the right words or know how to help.

 

With the help of our community who have a lived experience of mother loss, we've developed a fact sheet that provides some practical ways that you can better support someone you know who has lost their mother. 

Download PDF

 

Books & Podcasts

 

What will I wear to your funeral?
By Kellie Curtain 

'Put your lipstick on, begin the day. It will start without you anyway.'

'What will I wear to your funeral?' 'How do I look after your orchid?'

Kellie wanted to ask her mother so many questions while she still could. When you don't go a day without speaking to someone you love, how do you say goodbye forever? It didn't bear thinking about. 

When Pamela Curtain is diagnosed with cancer, her family plead with her to try everything that might give them more time. She reluctantly agrees, but on one condition. Life goes on because it has to and so does the weekly family dinner with wine and loud sibling banter. 

With grace, guts and cups of tea the matriarch prepares herself and those she loves for the inevitable. Their conversations are honest, funny and at times confronting, where a shade of lipstick might be the only bright side. 

This is a toast to love, friendship and the ordinary. There is no happy ending but the Curtain family discovers that there can be 'good' in goodbye. And it somehow leaves them feeling just a little victorious.

Now put on the kettle and open the wine.

 

Purchase from Booktopia here. 

 

Podcast:
Ted Radio Hour - Moving Forward

Podcast Review: Rita Marigliani

The idea that you can ‘move on’ from loss and grief is one I always struggled with, which is why this podcast really resonated for me.
It shares the stories of people who have experienced a range of loss and who, instead of forgetting the past, have moved forward with it. 
While these stories are not specifically about mother loss, the messages ring true. I found it validated how I feel about the memories of my mum and how I have incorporated them, and her loss, into my life.

This is a great one to share with well-meaning family and friends who don’t know what to say, or can’t understand how you are working through your grief. 

 

 Click here to listen.

Motherless Daughters
By Hope Edelman

Although a mother's mortality is inevitable no book has discussed the profound lasting and far reaching effects of this loss until Motherless Daughters, which became an instant classic. More than twenty years later, it is still the go-to book that women of all ages look to for comfort, help, and understanding when their mother dies. Building on interviews with hundreds of mother loss survivors, Edelman's personal story of losing her mother, and recent research in grief and psychology, Motherless Daughters reveals the shared experiences and core identity issues of motherless women:

  • Why the absence of a nurturing hand shapes a woman's identity throughout her lifespan
  • How present day relationships are defined by past losses
  • How a woman can resolve past conflicts and move toward acceptance and healing
  • Why grief really is not a linear passage but an ongoing cyclical journey
  • How the legacy of mother loss shifts with the passage of time

    Purchase from Booktopia here. 

Mum Moments & HEARTSPACE Letters to my Mother
By Judy Taylor

 

If you have lost someone close then you know how it feels. Grief is hard.

You may feel totally alone in your feelings, it hurts. Grief can be so overwhelming.

Judy Taylor lost her mother suddenly and found herself on a raw and confronting rollercoaster of emotions and feelings which completely took her by surprise.

She started writing a journal as a way to cope and found her honest, raw expression of feelings helped her ride those waves of grief. As she shared her journal with friends and colleagues she was touched that her words also had a profound healing affect on those dealing with the death of a loved one.

Perhaps Judy’s words can help you, too.

 

Purchase Mum Moments from Booktopia here.
Purchase HEARTSPACE Letters to my mother here.

 

Mother's Day Resources

Struggling with Mother's Day?

By Dr Carrie Lethborg

Creating awareness is not just about educating others about motherless daughters and the challenges they face around Mother's Day in particular, but it is also an opportunity to take time to look inward and take care of our own feelings.

During MDA awareness week, Dr Carrie Lethborg an oncology social worker with more than 30 years experience and who last year became a motherless daughter herself, offers powerful insight into some of the complex feelings that can remain long after a mother is lost.

Click here to read more.